iserv-proxy: bake --optimistic-linking via -with-rtsopts (GHC ≥9.14)
Add `-with-rtsopts=--optimistic-linking` to iserv-proxy's cabalProjectLocal so the RTS option is embedded in `main.c` at link time and processed with `RtsOptsAll` — bypassing the OPTION_UNSAFE gate that command-line `+RTS --optimistic-linking -RTS` is subject to. The wrapper scripts under `overlays/{linux-cross,mingw_w64}.nix` no longer need to pass it at invocation. Gated on `impl(ghc >=9.14)` since earlier RTS versions don't recognise the flag.